Child Custody Opinions

What factors should be used to decide child custody?
Should the wishes of the child be considered?
If so, what would prevent one parent from making the
child promises that are not in the best interests of the
child in order to influence the child's decision?

Now before I begin my post I would like to notify you
all that I am going in on this one blind. Just giving
my own opinion due to me myself going thru a similar
situation with child custody.

A child's custody is a strong and touchy case.
The child's current living situation and the opposed
living situation should be over viewed.The child's
education, the financial's of the current arrangement
opposed to the new one. I do strongly believe that
the child's thoughts should be considered not only
at home or thru the opposed parties ,but also the
child needs to be heard by the court. This is not to
say that the child should be placed up to go against
the parities ,but just to know how the child feels about
the situation. Once again this is in the best interest of
the child.

I see now days that a lot of mothers are mothers just to
say that they had a baby by -----. Or just to say that
they are grown. Now I also think that everyone is not
made to be a mother. (We have always heard mommas baby
and daddy's maybe ,but hey it takes a mature lady to be
a mother and it takes a mature man to be a father.) Next
the lack of responsibility can prevent keeping the
child's promises. Not even that its done intentionally
but that it was not kept. The mind has to be focused
on wanting the best or wanting the all for the child
or children in question.

We as adults can sometimes be bullying. Meaning that
when we give our children that look, that eye, or
that certain tone in our voice they know what time it is.
So we also can be persuasive by feeding children the
information that we wont them to know and to agree with.
Children don't really know a difference depending on the
age range ,but when a child says something before they
lie on an adult they will tell on an adult. So I say
becareful of what we say, how we act, and what our
kids are exposed to because it only takes 1 minute of
information to be consumed into a child's head...


*BEWARE*

(This is coming from the heart of a mother of 4)